We talk a lot about military uniforms—dress blues, ACUs, PT gear—but when your spouse gets orders for a ceremony, unit function, or military ball, your first thought isn’t always where are my keys? It’s what do I wear?! We may not have a regulation uniform, but navigating dress codes as a military spouse is part of the journey. From Command picnics to black-tie galas, here’s your go-to guide for decoding dress expectations—starting casual and working up to full formal. 

Casual:

• For everyday base life like errands, FRG meetings, or casual lunches
• Jeans, capris, or sundresses paired with blouses, tunics, or cute tees, plus flats, clean sneakers, or sandals.
• Pair of slacks or jeans and a polo, too.

Athletic:

• For your laid-back gear for chasing toddlers, hiking with friends, or attending a unit fun run
• Leggings or joggers, athletic shorts, moisture-wicking tops, sneakers, and maybe a ball cap or hoodie. 
• Decent workout tee and pair with some shorts or workout pants to get your sweat on.

Business Casual:

• Means polished but not over the top—perfect for promotion ceremonies, briefings, or leadership meetings
• Pencil skirts, slacks, or khakis, blouses or structured tops, cardigans or casual blazers, low heels or loafers, and neat hairstyles with minimal jewelry. 
• Button-up shirt with tie and professional-looking slacks, no jeans.

Semi-Formal

• Now it is time to take it up a notch for evening events such as change of command receptions, holiday parties, or formal dinners that aren’t a ball
• Knee-length cocktail dresses, dressy jumpsuits, heels or flats are recommended
• Dress slacks with a button-down shirt and tie, with a sport coat or suit jacket with dress shoes

Formal

• This for the big ones like: Military Balls, Dining Outs, or black-tie banquets
• Floor-length gowns (with covered shoulders if required), elegant updos, statement jewelry, classic clutches
• Tuxedos or dark suits

We may not have a uniform, but dressing with purpose is its own form of pride—for the service, your spouse, and yourself. Whether you’re in sneakers chasing toddlers or heels navigating small talk, you’re part of the mission, and that never goes out of style.

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